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Texting That Leads to Dates

Turn matches and numbers into real plans without over-texting or playing games.

See tiers from $37What's inside

4 modules · 7 lessons · 8 exercises · 8 curated resources · 30-day guarantee

Is this you?

  • Your matches reply once and vanish
  • You end up as a pen pal and never meet
  • You over-think every message and send it two hours later
  • You do not know how to move from chatting to a date without sounding pushy

What you will get

Most conversations die in the first five messages or drift for weeks and go nowhere. This program gives you a simple structure: open with something specific, build a little warmth and play, then propose a concrete plan. It also covers pacing, reading interest, and what to do when she goes quiet.

Outcomes

  • Openers that get replies because they are about her, not you
  • A three-stage conversation structure: hook, warmth, plan
  • Clear rules for pacing, length and emoji that keep you non-needy
  • A reliable way to propose a date with a time and place
  • A calm playbook for silence, flakes and reschedules

Modules and lessons

  1. Openers — The opener's only job is to get a reply that is easy for her to write.
    • Specific, light, answerable
    • Numbers from real life
  2. The middle: warmth and play — Three to eight exchanges where you both find out whether this is fun. Then propose.
    • Match her energy, then lead
    • Reading interest
  3. Proposing the date — Specific time, specific place, easy yes. Offer an alternative if she cannot.
    • The proposal formula
    • Between the proposal and the date
  4. Common failure modes — Over-texting, under-texting, and emotional conversations over text.
    • Save depth for in person

The learning library

8 hand-picked videos, books, articles, research and tools, with notes on what to take from each. The links are in the workbook.

articleWhat to text to get that first dateMatthew Hussey, Entertainment Tonight
articleHow to write a Bumble opening line in 60 secondsBumble, The Buzz
articleBest intro lines, because you're better than 'hey'Bumble, The Buzz
researchHinge: comments beat likesGlobal Dating Insights
videoHow to make any boring conversation flirty (3 steps)YouTube
videoMatthew Hussey: texting mistakesYouTube search
videoCharisma on Command: how to textYouTube search
bookAttached: secure communicationLevine and Heller (book)

Exercises and scripts

8 step-by-step exercises with time estimates. Full instructions are in the workbook; the tier shows where each one unlocks.

Opener bank · 30 minStarter and up
Thread autopsy · 20 minStarter and up
Pacing rules · 10 minStarter and up
The proposal drill · 15 minStarter and up
Interest read · 15 minComplete and up
Tease calibration · 20 minComplete and up
Flake protocol · 10 minComplete and up
Coach thread review · 45 minUltra

4 scripts in total in the Complete and Ultra workbooks, plus all 33 across every program in the Scripts and Templates Pack.

The eight things you will measure

Score each 1–5 before you start, at day 15 and at the end. The workbook has the scoring sheet.

Opener quality1: 'Hey' or compliments5: Specific, playful, answerable
Reply rate1: Most openers ignored5: Most openers get a reply
Pacing1: Instant or days-late replies5: Matched to hers
Warmth and play1: Interview mode5: Light teasing and real interest
Proposal timing1: Pen pal for weeks5: Proposed within eight exchanges
Proposal clarity1: 'We should hang out sometime'5: Day, time, place
Handling silence1: Chasing, triple-texting5: One follow-up, then let go
Conversion1: Few dates per ten matches5: Dates from most engaged threads

Choose your tier

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Starter

Learn the fundamentals and get moving in 7 days

$37 one-time

  • Core workbook (PDF): lessons, key ideas, mistakes to avoid
  • Curated learning library with links to videos, books and research
  • 7-day action plan
  • Before / during / after self-assessment matrix
  • Starter exercises
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Complete

The full 30-day program with every exercise and script

$147$97 one-time

  • Everything in Starter
  • Full 30-day program, week by week
  • All exercises, including the advanced ones
  • Scripts, templates and message frameworks
  • Weekly review template and progress tracker
  • 30 days of email Q&A with your coach

Ultra

Complete plus personal coaching and a 90-day path

$497$297 one-time

  • Everything in Complete
  • 90-day mastery path with monthly milestones
  • One private 60-minute coaching call
  • Personal written review of your situation, profile or messages
  • Six fortnightly accountability check-ins by email
  • Lifetime updates to the workbook

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