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First Dates She Wants to Repeat

Plan, lead and enjoy first dates that turn into second dates.

See tiers from $37What's inside

4 modules · 9 lessons · 8 exercises · 8 curated resources · 30-day guarantee

Is this you?

  • You get first dates but rarely second ones
  • Dates feel like job interviews
  • You are unsure who pays, when to kiss, how to end it
  • You get nervous and talk too much or too little

What you will get

A first date is not an interview and not a performance. It is two people finding out whether they enjoy each other. This program covers choosing the right format, leading with ease, conversation that goes somewhere, handling the bill, the ending, consent, and the follow-up that makes a second date natural.

Outcomes

  • Three first-date formats that work and why dinner usually does not
  • A conversation approach that creates connection without interrogation
  • A confident way to handle logistics, the bill and the ending
  • Reading her signals and asking for consent naturally
  • A follow-up habit that doubles second-date rates

Modules and lessons

  1. Format and logistics — Short, active, easy to extend or end. You choose, she can veto.
    • Drinks, walk or activity
    • Leading with ease
  2. Conversation that connects — Curiosity, stories and a little vulnerability. Fewer questions, more exchange.
    • Stories over questions
    • Depth and vulnerability
    • Play and tension
  3. The bill, the ending, the kiss — Decide in advance so you are not negotiating in the moment.
    • Paying
    • Ending on a high
    • Consent, plainly
  4. Follow-up — The second date is decided in the 48 hours after the first.
    • The next-day text

The learning library

8 hand-picked videos, books, articles, research and tools, with notes on what to take from each. The links are in the workbook.

talkHow to fall in love, according to Hinge's relationship scientistNPR interview with Logan Ury
articleLogan Ury on behavioural science and datingBehavioral Scientist
articleWhat is consent? The FRIES modelPlanned Parenthood
videoHow to make any boring conversation flirty (3 steps)YouTube
videoCharisma on Command channelYouTube
videoMatthew Hussey: first date adviceYouTube search
videoFirst date mistakes men makeYouTube search
articleDressing sharp, less complicatedReal Men Real Style

Exercises and scripts

8 step-by-step exercises with time estimates. Full instructions are in the workbook; the tier shows where each one unlocks.

Venue list · 20 minStarter and up
Story bank for dates · 25 minStarter and up
Question upgrade · 15 minStarter and up
Decisions in advance · 10 minStarter and up
Post-date debrief · 10 minComplete and up
Date design with a surprise · 20 minComplete and up
Nerves protocol · 10 minComplete and up
Coach date debrief · 60 minUltra

4 scripts in total in the Complete and Ultra workbooks, plus all 33 across every program in the Scripts and Templates Pack.

The eight things you will measure

Score each 1–5 before you start, at day 15 and at the end. The workbook has the scoring sheet.

Format choice1: Dinner, long, expensive5: Short, active, easy to extend
Logistics leadership1: Vague, late, unprepared5: Clear plan, early, plan B
Conversation1: Interview5: Stories, depth, play
Presence1: Thinking about the next line5: Listening and following her energy
Nerves1: Over-talk or shut down5: Settled, warm
Ending1: Awkward, drags on5: On a high, with a clear next step
Consent and respect1: Guessing5: Reading signals and checking in
Second-date rate1: Rare5: Most good dates lead to a second

Choose your tier

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Starter

Learn the fundamentals and get moving in 7 days

$37 one-time

  • Core workbook (PDF): lessons, key ideas, mistakes to avoid
  • Curated learning library with links to videos, books and research
  • 7-day action plan
  • Before / during / after self-assessment matrix
  • Starter exercises
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Complete

The full 30-day program with every exercise and script

$147$97 one-time

  • Everything in Starter
  • Full 30-day program, week by week
  • All exercises, including the advanced ones
  • Scripts, templates and message frameworks
  • Weekly review template and progress tracker
  • 30 days of email Q&A with your coach

Ultra

Complete plus personal coaching and a 90-day path

$497$297 one-time

  • Everything in Complete
  • 90-day mastery path with monthly milestones
  • One private 60-minute coaching call
  • Personal written review of your situation, profile or messages
  • Six fortnightly accountability check-ins by email
  • Lifetime updates to the workbook

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