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How Attraction Works

What women actually respond to, according to research rather than forum myths.

See tiers from $37What's inside

4 modules · 9 lessons · 8 exercises · 10 curated resources · 30-day guarantee

Is this you?

  • You suspect half the advice you have read online is wrong but cannot tell which half
  • You want to understand why some men you know do well without looking like models
  • You have been told you are 'too nice' or 'too intense' and want to know what that means
  • You want to attract a partner, not just dates

What you will get

Most dating advice for men is guesswork dressed up as science. This program walks through what the research on mate preferences, attachment and attraction really says, then turns it into behaviour: the traits worth building, the signals worth sending, and the myths worth dropping.

Outcomes

  • A clear, evidence-based picture of what women prioritise for short- and long-term partners
  • Your attachment style and how it shapes who you attract and how you behave
  • The difference between kindness and people-pleasing, and why one attracts and the other repels
  • How humour, status, warmth and competence are actually read
  • A personal development plan based on the traits with the highest return

Modules and lessons

  1. What the research says women want — Cross-cultural studies consistently rank kindness, intelligence, emotional stability and dependability at the top. Looks and resources matter, but less than men assume.
    • Kindness is the top-rated trait, and it is not weakness
    • Short-term versus long-term preferences
  2. Attachment: your operating system — Attachment style, from Levine and Heller's Attached, predicts how you handle closeness, distance and conflict, and who you are drawn to.
    • Secure, anxious, avoidant
    • Acting secure
  3. Signals: warmth, competence and status — People judge others on two axes within seconds: warmth (can I trust you?) and competence (can you get things done?). Attraction needs both.
    • Warmth first
    • Competence and status without bragging
    • Humour as intelligence
  4. Myths to drop — The popular 'red pill' narrative gets the research backwards and makes men worse at dating.
    • Looks, money and height
    • Playing hard to get and being 'alpha'

The learning library

10 hand-picked videos, books, articles, research and tools, with notes on what to take from each. The links are in the workbook.

bookAttached: The New Science of Adult AttachmentAmir Levine and Rachel Heller (book)
toolAttachment style questionnaire (from Attached)psytests.org archive
researchWomen rate kindness the most attractive trait (2024 study)The Healthy
articleWhat do women want in a man? What social scientists sayTiege Hanley analysis
articleMasculine habits women find attractive (research roundup)ScienceBlog
talkCues: the hidden signals of attraction and connectionVanessa Van Edwards, podcast interview
articleHow men and women flirt with body languagePsychology Today
talkHow to fall in love, according to Hinge's relationship scientistNPR interview with Logan Ury
videoDavid Buss on mate preferencesYouTube search
videoCharisma on Command: why people are attracted to these traitsYouTube

Exercises and scripts

8 step-by-step exercises with time estimates. Full instructions are in the workbook; the tier shows where each one unlocks.

Attachment quiz and reflection · 25 minStarter and up
Kindness source check · 15 minStarter and up
Warmth practice · 10 minStarter and up
Myth inventory · 20 minStarter and up
Secure-behaviour drill · 30 minComplete and up
Competence story bank · 30 minComplete and up
Humour lab · 20 minComplete and up
Partner profile · 30 minUltra

3 scripts in total in the Complete and Ultra workbooks, plus all 33 across every program in the Scripts and Templates Pack.

The eight things you will measure

Score each 1–5 before you start, at day 15 and at the end. The workbook has the scoring sheet.

Understanding of what attracts1: Based on forums and guesses5: Based on research I can cite
Kindness from strength1: I am nice to be liked5: I am generous without needing a return
Secure behaviour1: I chase or withdraw5: I state needs and tolerate uncertainty
Warmth signals1: Closed, cold, serious5: Open, smiling, engaged
Competence without bragging1: I talk about achievements5: They show through stories and action
Humour1: Rehearsed or absent5: Playful, observational, self-aware
Partner selection1: Attracted to chaos and push-pull5: Attracted to consistency and calm
Myth-free thinking1: Looks and money decide everything5: I invest where it compounds

Choose your tier

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Starter

Learn the fundamentals and get moving in 7 days

$37 one-time

  • Core workbook (PDF): lessons, key ideas, mistakes to avoid
  • Curated learning library with links to videos, books and research
  • 7-day action plan
  • Before / during / after self-assessment matrix
  • Starter exercises
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Complete

The full 30-day program with every exercise and script

$147$97 one-time

  • Everything in Starter
  • Full 30-day program, week by week
  • All exercises, including the advanced ones
  • Scripts, templates and message frameworks
  • Weekly review template and progress tracker
  • 30 days of email Q&A with your coach

Ultra

Complete plus personal coaching and a 90-day path

$497$297 one-time

  • Everything in Complete
  • 90-day mastery path with monthly milestones
  • One private 60-minute coaching call
  • Personal written review of your situation, profile or messages
  • Six fortnightly accountability check-ins by email
  • Lifetime updates to the workbook

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